If only it were that simple, your Positive Self Image would be miraculously increased within a very short period of time. Unfortunately it seems hard to find so many willing volunteers! In fact you have probably noticed a strange quirk of human nature which works as follows:
The more you 'ask' other people (either verbally or non-verbally) for affection, warmth and love, the less they will give.
The converse is also true: Those people who don't seem to need warmth, love and affection, and never ask for it, are those people who seem to get the most!
Strange isn't it?
This situation doesn't occur if you occasionally 'ask' for love, for example if you just feel a bit down one day. Most people will respond with warmth; the problem occurs if you keep on asking for it on a regular basis.
So, if we cannot find an army of slaves to pat us on the back each day, what can we do?
The answer is we pat OURSELVES on the back! Metaphorically, that is.
Every morning, when you get up and go to the bathroom, look at yourself in the mirror, smile broadly at yourself and say (out loud if possible), "Good morning, you're looking really great today!"
Then FEEL warm thoughts towards yourself, feel as much love as possible, put real emotion behind this.
DON'T look in the mirror and think things like: "God I look old!", or "I'm really ugly." This is a really bad habit to get into - break it now.
Like most of the steps in this book, this step may seem deceptively simple. You may even find this particular step amusing; but I am very serious indeed. This step, like ALL the steps, has been carefully worked out and tested over many years and found to be truly effective in raising your Positive Self Image.
When you first try it, you will undoubtedly feel a little strange, if not foolish; after all, you are not used to talking to yourself - but that is going to change. You will be doing a lot of talking to yourself from now on.
This step is the second of four powerful exercises which I will give to you to help you to get into a dialogue with your subconscious. By 'dialogue' I do not mean intellectual sentences and phrases; I am talking about an EMOTIONAL DIALOGUE, for this is the only sort of dialogue which will affect your Positive Self Image.
When you give yourself this "good morning" greeting, you are starting to build up a bond of trust between your conscious and subconscious minds. You are giving yourself positive strokes, thereby boosting your Positive Self Image; you are unraveling the evil spell of the past.
How long will it take before it starts to work?
When I started to use this technique, it still felt strange after two weeks, thereafter it started to seem quite natural and I actually felt my Positive Self Image being gradually enhanced. I could notice a definite benefit after only one month.
Start using this technique first thing tomorrow. Promise yourself that you will use it for at least a month, I guarantee that you will notice a change in that time.